Lately, a lot of ‘adults’ have been talking about teenage relationships as if they are insignificant or inferior. As a 17 year old who has been in a relationship for two years, I disagree.
The idea of love being a feeling that is dependent on age is absurd. If I am too young to feel romantic love, then surely I am too young to feel familial love and platonic love as well? Yet I have love for my parents, siblings, grandparents, friends and even pets. But you don’t question it.
Is it that teenage romantic love is inferior to adult romantic love?
Or is it just that adults in long term relationship forget what falling in love for the first time is like? Do people get so comfortable in their relationships that they stop doing the small things that make young love so special? I think so.
When an adult leaves a relationship and starts to fall for someone else, they often describe having the feeling of being young again. Or they mock their actions and say things like ‘I’m acting like a teenager’. As if it’s something to be ashamed of.
Maybe it’s adults that have got it wrong. Perhaps teenage love is the exact kind of love that everyone should be feeling.
Teenage love is raw, new, exciting, stupid and a learning process.It’s so important for a teenager to accept that their feelings are valid and real. By the time people get to adulthood they seem to have exhausted their education of love and want to settle down. But why is this boring cyclical relationship that they spend hours complaining about to their friends, superior to the joyous ‘puppy love’ that they look down upon.
My opinion is; it’s not superior in the slightest.
I am not too young to feel love. I think you are too old to remember the basic premise of love and relationships. I agree commitment and support are fundamental components in a successful relationship. In order to sustain a relationship you must be able to be practical and look at it maturely. However, most adults I know seem to think that this is all the matters in a relationship. How boring.
So if your an adult reading this and feel as though you and your partner have lost your spark.
My challenge to you is:
Grow the hell down! Surprise your partner with flowers or chocolate, eat too much ice cream, go on a double date, go to a theme park, play 20 questions, take ridiculously silly photos of each other! Be a teenager, just for a day. Chances are you might learn something new about each other.
And if you’re a teenager reading this, enjoy being a teenager! Make mistakes, have a laugh, fall in love, go out with your friends, girlfriends, boyfriends. Savour your youth, because most people don’t.
I’m not saying that all adolescent relationships are healthy or will last, but I think everyone needs an equal balance of youth and maturity.
I hope you found this interesting, helpful, or even if you concluded it was a little stupid. Whatever your thoughts, let me know in the comments.
Love Jodie X